Have you been feeling like your relationship with your body is on the rocks? Like you're always talking at each other instead of with each other? Like one wants to go to bed early while the other wants to go out dancing?
Well fear no more! Have we got a deal for you...
Before calling it splitsville, consider the following:
Well fear no more! Have we got a deal for you...
Before calling it splitsville, consider the following:
1. Hear each other out.
This includes both rational and irrational thoughts. Why does one want to go out and party? Why is the other afraid to leave the house? Sometimes you need to give the fearful voice a chance to express concerns.
2. Keep it contained.
To avoid getting absorbed in disordered rationalization, designate a time and place for the discussion. Perhaps let a third party be present, like your "wise mind," and keep your recovery skills in mind. Be aware of the warning signs that you're heading into ED territory.
3. Make a compromise.
If you think you should go on a three-hour hike but your body feels tired, take a 30 minute walk instead or save the hike for the next day. Remember that there are some things that can't be compromised. For instance, if your body is hungry you need to EAT.
4. Be patient.
Your body might not sense that it is safe to talk to you for a while after you begin recovery. Keep trying and eventually it will learn that you are trustworthy.
5. Re-frame the idea of "loving your body."
When it gets difficult to love and accept the body you're in just return to the basics. Think of your body as if it were a pet or a very needy plant. It needs to be fed, watered, walked, and held.
6. Try some of these suggestions.
7. Trust.
Trust the process. Trust yourself. Trust that your body knows what it's doing.
8. Give it time.
It takes time to repair this relationship, especially when it has been broken for so long. Things will not change overnight. Don't get discouraged and continue working to heal the relationship.
Remember that when it comes to you and your body, neither a breakup nor divorce is an option. You were born into this world together and you will exit this world together. It is your choice to walk through life together.
-Becca and Brit
This includes both rational and irrational thoughts. Why does one want to go out and party? Why is the other afraid to leave the house? Sometimes you need to give the fearful voice a chance to express concerns.
2. Keep it contained.
To avoid getting absorbed in disordered rationalization, designate a time and place for the discussion. Perhaps let a third party be present, like your "wise mind," and keep your recovery skills in mind. Be aware of the warning signs that you're heading into ED territory.
3. Make a compromise.
If you think you should go on a three-hour hike but your body feels tired, take a 30 minute walk instead or save the hike for the next day. Remember that there are some things that can't be compromised. For instance, if your body is hungry you need to EAT.
4. Be patient.
Your body might not sense that it is safe to talk to you for a while after you begin recovery. Keep trying and eventually it will learn that you are trustworthy.
5. Re-frame the idea of "loving your body."
When it gets difficult to love and accept the body you're in just return to the basics. Think of your body as if it were a pet or a very needy plant. It needs to be fed, watered, walked, and held.
6. Try some of these suggestions.
- Name one body part each day that you like or appreciate.
- Write the word "LOVE" all over your body, especially on the parts that are the most difficult for you.
- Look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself that you're beautiful.
- Journal about how your bodies feels and your relationship with it.
- Find movement that feels good for your body (i.e. wild dancing, marco polo in the pool, etc.)
7. Trust.
Trust the process. Trust yourself. Trust that your body knows what it's doing.
8. Give it time.
It takes time to repair this relationship, especially when it has been broken for so long. Things will not change overnight. Don't get discouraged and continue working to heal the relationship.
Remember that when it comes to you and your body, neither a breakup nor divorce is an option. You were born into this world together and you will exit this world together. It is your choice to walk through life together.
-Becca and Brit
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